Probably the greatest obstacle faced by people in the Western world to learning correct, effortless (“classical”) singing is the axiom that when you are faced with a problem, “do” something is the usual response! When solving any problem, many people respond by taking action, instantly start using willpower. This mindset will totally undermine any and all “efforts” to sing correctly, easily, and resonantly. Singing, after all, “hijacks” the entire respiratory system, which is mostly involuntary (because if you don’t breathe, you die).
OH TOTALLY, THE WORK OF BEING A WOMAN, HAVING TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BE A MEGALOMANIAC JUST SO YOU CAN REACH A BASELINE OF CREATIVITY! I guess for me it’s a matter of picturing my life’s work without confidence/stamina/GUSTO, and then picturing it WITH, and the WITH one is much more full and real and plentiful. Think of how many incompetent assholes are successful just because they are confident! Or of how many competent people hold themselves back! If you can master both competence AND confidence, young grasshopper, then you ought to be able to do anything you want. And as humiliating as it might feel to write the words “I AM MIGHTY” down in a Moleskine…who cares about that, I guess. There is a bigger issue at hand.
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The rush and pressure of modern life are a form, perhaps the most common form, of its innate violence. To allow oneself to be carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns, to surrender to too many demands, to commit oneself to too many projects, to want to help everyone in everything is to succumb to violence. More than that, it is cooperation in violence. The frenzy of the activist…destroys his own inner capacity for peace. It destroys the fruitfulness of his own work, because it kills the root of inner wisdom which makes work fruitful.
Thomas Merton, as quoted in Courtney Martin’s weekly column for On Being, "The Spiritual Art of Saying No"
Those who develop so-called mental disorders are those who are sensitive, which is viewed in Western culture as oversensitivity. Indigenous cultures don’t see it that way and, as a result, sensitive people don’t experience themselves as overly sensitive. In the West, “it is the overload of the culture they’re in that is just wrecking them,” observes Dr. Somé. The frenetic pace, the bombardment of the senses, and the violent energy that characterize Western culture can overwhelm sensitive people.
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The biggest obstacle to creativity is attachment to outcome. As soon as you become attached to a specific outcome, you feel compelled to control and manipulate what you’re doing. And in the process you shut yourself off to other possibilities.

I got a call from someone who wanted me to lead a workshop on creativity. He needed to tell his management exactly what tools people would come away with. I told him I didn’t know. I couldn’t give him a promise, because then I’d become attached to an outcome — which would defeat the purpose of any creative workshop.’

It’s hard for corporations to understand that creativity is not just about succeeding. It’s about experimenting and discovering.
The more you are like others, the more secure you will feel, yet the more your heart will ache, the more your dreams will be troubled, and the more your soul will slip off into silence. Finally, one day you will have forgotten you have a soul. You will rise, drive through traffic, arrive at work, and not remember how you got there. Once you have reached that condition there is no further need to think about much or face painful choices. You will have developed enough conditioned reflexes to make it through your life on automatic pilot.

-James Hollis, Creating the Life You Want

The more you are like others, the more secure you will feel, yet the more your heart will ache, the more your dreams will be troubled, and the more your soul will slip off into silence. Finally, one day you will have forgotten you have a soul. You will rise, drive through traffic, arrive at work, and not remember how you got there. Once you have reached that condition there is no further need to think about much or face painful choices. You will have developed enough conditioned reflexes to make it through your life on automatic pilot.

-James Hollis, Creating the Life You Want